Wishing every one a fantastic New year 2010...
Its been an eventful few months for me both personally and professionally!.... Among thousand other things i could not take Tiger (in the) woods off my head...
- For a non-golfer like me Tiger has made himself more relevant... is a comment that is applicable to me.
- A person who was adored all this while, everything going perfect for him in his life, is travelling down hill (may be for a short while), endorsements cancelled, bad press, blah blah .... fundamentally he is unable to apply his mind fully on what he is best at - playing golf.
- I also liked some of the comments i read Tiger is more human now....
But the question which i kept asking myself are slightly different:
- Is there anything quite unnatural / unacceptable in what he did, so that he is left with a feeling of shame and guilt?
- What makes a man do what he did, knowing fully well that it would haunt him some day in the future?
- Are we holding a false sense of morality across the world / humanity which increasingly we are unable to cling to?
The summary seems to be very simple yet we find it very difficult to accept it...
- Most of the "sociosexuality" study indicates that there is an increased willingness among majority of the youth population that casual sex is an acceptable phenomenon.
- In my opinion there is no need for a study at all, we just have to open our eyes to the world around us. Increased awareness of sex, increased availability of pornography and more importantly unrestricted availability of soft porn content, increased mobility, increasingly lenient social and family values, stressful life (though many times its also an excuse), Catalysts like Viagra and insurance agents like I-Pills, have certainly removing the prudish image of human race without a gender bias across the globe.
- I have to add that there is a section of the society in every country who hold highest regard for value system and are voluntarily disciplined and lead a honorable life. Would you agree with what i fear, the density of this variety is dwindling?
- There are some societies which are restrictive and some open... primarily giving thousands of hues and shades in between this range. We need to accept this is evolution.
- If this is not a big deal in the larger section of the society then why should some like Tiger woods or Bill Clinton or anyone for that matter, face the music and should lead a life of guilt?
I remember an old joke... A nun runs across the church with torn clothes and screams to the father of the church... "Father, when i was walking to the village for social service activities, few men pounced on me in an isolated area and they raped me repeatedly"...
Father was aghast and so were the other people present in the church.
The nun was saying the same statement repeatedly. After some time Father took her away and mumbled to her " OK, I heard you well but can you cut the smirk off your face".
But more importantly lets understand that socially there is a red line, where does it start and where does it blur?
- The first phenomenon is "If you are leader, inspirer, a genius in which ever field, then the society looks up to you for a idealistic model and you serve as a motivator. They expect you to uphold the highest value system that is ideal and sacrosanct".
- The second phenomenon is that "In an institution of marriage, loyalty and trust are the unwritten rules".
So if the above 2 points are where the red line starts then where does it blur?
- The only answer i have for this is "Power blurs". There is a popular saying that "Might is right". History has repeatedly pointed that once people become powerful the red line not just in celibacy but also in every sphere of human life tends to blur.
- There is an increased awareness that the rules don't apply to people with power! Lets look at a small example..."Lets assume that you are conducting an meeting / event in a venue which has an exit gate and an entry gate. While entries and exits are strictly manned for one way traffic for general public, the head of security or the event can break this rule without any notion of guilt"
All of us who are intoxicated by power in which ever form tend to be less restrictive about our thinking and actions. The rules and regulations, value systems seems to appear that they are only for the meek and weak.
Having exceeded the attention span for this article i am going to share few examples from Indian history in Part 2....